This is a new post from danah boyd (hope I have that anti-capital thing right) regarding how adolescents define cyberbullying. The core idea, I think, is that adults and adolescents appear to be using the term in different ways and this may be a consequence of all of the attention the topic has received. With victims, redefining what is happening to you (I would describe this as a form of normalization) provides a defense mechanism the clinicians talk about.